DEALING WITH SETBACKS TO SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP

 

 

     SONG OF SOLOMON 2:8-15, PROVERBS 14:8-15.

INTRODUCTION: The two most important decisions of every person’s life are usually faced and resolved in youth: whether or not to follow Christ and whom to marry. Unfortunately, most of the opposite sex relationship during youth age never get to the anticipated bus-stop – marriage. And the ladies who always suffer more in any relationship setbacks will definitely pay more than the guys emotionally and psychologically. This fact makes it very important for every young lady to know how to handle setbacks in opposite sex relationship.

Why should one deal with setbacks, when you can easily avoid or prevent it. You know before that all-too-painful relationship arises, there are ways to prevent it. Majority of the setbacks encounter in opposite sex relationships are caused by lack of communication and misunderstanding between the sexes. Here are some pieces of advice to make your relationship a slice of heaven (or wake you up, whichever is applicable!).

TIPS ON HOW TO AVOID SETBACKS
 

1.      Know What Is Right For You Now.

To be able to make the right decisions in relationships, you must first ‘know’ what is right. If you have to choose to marry or stay single for a few years more, what would you choose?

You should not get into relationship because someone else thinks you should. Let it be because you’ve found someone to love for the rest of your life. And that you’re ready for it.

2.      Define What You Want In A Relationship Before Going Into One.

Make a realistic profile of your dream guy before meeting him. This will help you to avoid those who are likely to break your heart. Just like making a list before going to market based on how much money you have.

 

3.      Avoid Unrealistic Expectations.

When you expect too much from a relationship, then you are bound to be heartbroken. Once what you anticipated is unfulfilled, your doubt would creep in and love would start crawling out of the relationship.

Some people are waiting for that special person who will meet all their needs and brings purpose and fulfillment to their lives. A relationship like marriage doesn’t transform unhappy people into happy people.

 

4.      Avoid Desperate Decisions.

A desperate person has a sense of urgency about finding a mate. Unfortunately, their urge-to-merge strategy scares off potential mates instead of attracting them. That’s one secret I wish every lady should know.

Those desperate to get married, risk lowering their sexual standards to keep a relationship.

Desperate singles are sometimes found lurking around social gatherings – graduations, funerals, and birthday parties.

 

5.      Avoid Unnecessary Worry.

Most ladies always worry that their man will be swept off freely by another fast girl. Obviously, we are living in a falling world where anything can happen, but God is still in control.

It is my belief that if God has called you to be married, he does have just one person for you. And no one can thwart his plan – Job 42:2. We shouldn’t ignore God’s sovereignty in our lives as Christians.

 

6.      Keep Your Focus On Jesus.

Most singles are so preoccupied with finding Mr. Right that they miss what God has for them.

Become obsessed, not with finding a mate, but with loving God and loving people generally. Delight yourself in the Lord and he will grant you the desires of your heart – Psalm 37:4. 

7.      Avoid Making Wrong Choices.

You’ll know you’re making wrong choices when:

·         Your relationship principle is “First-Available Syndrome – you are so desperate for relationship that you settle for the first available person, even if he’s not close to what you’ll call Mr. Perfect.

·         You’re fooled by the externals – you’re looking for the wrong things in a relationship, and are fooled by superficial qualities. Comprehending only what is obvious; not deep or penetrating emotionally or intellectually.

·          You’re blinded by getting physical – you can’t see the negative traits in your partner because of the sexual relationship, that’s why they said that “love is blind”.

·         You’re going too fast – you’re in such a big hurry to get married that you ignore important road signs along the relationship high way.

THINGS TO CONSIDER BEFORE FORMALIZING A RELATIONSHIP
 

1.      Common Belief.

This aspect is very important if you anticipate the relationship to terminate in marriage, because our common belief is a philosophy which determines our life-style; and people with different life styles can’t have a cordial relationship.

2.      Shared Values.

Values are the philosophy of a person on how to live or how to deal with a situation in which he have an emotional investment (either for or against something)

Our values are shaped by our common beliefs, education, home up bringing, social backgrounds, environments, etc.

So you’re bound to have a lot of disagreement if you don’t share the same values.

3.      Social Class.

Most people overlook this because they’ve seen people from different social class happily married. It should be recognized that wide social differences may cause setbacks in opposite sex relationships.

4.      Educational Level.

Any relationship between two people includes an important intellectual section involving conversations and activities, which becomes more complicated when there are large differences between partners in terms of educational level.

5.      Age Difference.

It is true that age is no barrier to opposite sex relationships. But this can break a relationship especially when the older person is over protective; or the younger person begins to feel belittled because of his or her age.

6.      Personality.

It is very important to observe the traits and characteristics of your potential partner. Personality is the result of both character and temperament.

Character is the learnt component in our personality which can be modify, while temperament is our inherited organic system which cannot be modify.

DOES OPPOSITE SEX REALLY ATTRACT?

Knowing exactly whom you want is just one side of the coin. Who you are and who you would become when you go into a relationship is an important factor.

Most relationships are successful because both parties have learned to acknowledge and appreciate their partner’s different temperament. Your relationship is bound to fail if you don’t acknowledge the significant differences in you based on your temperaments. These differences are what attracted both of you to each other in the first place.

“Opposites attract.” This is as far as electromagnetism is concerned. Negative is never attracted to another negative; instead negatives are attracted to positives and vice versa. How about in human relationships, is there such a law of attraction? Is attraction just a matter of chemistry, or is there something more to it?

Have you ever wonder what attracts you to other people? It’s your perception of your potential partner’s personality that attracts you to him.

In the animal kingdom, the attraction between animals of the opposite sex is all about chemicals called pheromones.

Lately, scientists are looking into the existence of human pheromones and its role in mate selection. Most scientists have asserted that these chemicals do not exist, or if these indeed exist, these chemicals do not play a role in opposite sex attraction between a man and a woman.

Does personality play any role in opposite sex attraction?

Yes it does. It is your perception of your potential partner’s unique personality that attracts you to him.

What does this tell you? You may have preference with regard to personality types and this explains your attraction to a particular person. However, the actual personality of the person can only be verified through close interaction through time..

So, how does attraction figure in relationships?

You have probably heard that attraction is just a prelude. Attraction alone cannot make a relationship work. Attraction makes you notice a person from the opposite sex, but once you get to know the person more,

attraction is just one consideration. Shared values, dreams, and passions become more significant in establishing long-term relationships.

If this is the case, should one stop trying to become attractive?

More than trying to become physically attractive, you should work on all aspects of your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being. Physical attraction is just an originator in a relationship.

CONCLUSION: To cap it all, what is important is to know what you really want in a relationship; be ready to forgive when offended; and be a living proof of what you would want your partner to be – Matthew 7:12. You see, respect begets respect, trust brings about trust, and love sows love. Never pretend to be someone you are not. Fooling another person by making him think that you share the same values and beliefs is only going to cause disappointments.

As mentioned earlier, a person’s sense of self-security matters more than just physical attractiveness. Just be yourself!

You should also know that relationship requires high level of adjustment. Adjustment in relationship is simply learning to adapt to your partner’s weaknesses while strengthening your own.

 

	BY: UNCLE BISHOP           bishopcares@yahoo.com     0242207443

 

MENTORING YOUNGER PEOPLE

TEXT:        JOHN 15:9-17, PROVERBS 27:17

INTRODUCTION:

Most nights, Linda couldn’t sleep because of a collection of questions in her head she could not answer: “Where is the enthusiasm and ambition I used to have for being a teen? Where is my passion for school and study? What am I doing with my life – and why?”

She explored various avenues to find answers, even seeing a pastor for counselling. But her feelings of disappointment and reduced motivation persisted. With her life in such a mess, she wonders if she could ever live a fulfilled adult life in future.

They are millions of boys and girls like Linda who are desperately searching for direction and meaning as they pass through the corridor of adolescence to adulthood. For many of them, a mentor could make a difference.

This lesson is aimed at stirring and inspiring us, creating in each person a passion for mentoring younger people like Linda.

 

EXPOSITION:

A mentor is a trusted, experienced counsellor and guide – an adult companion who cares about someone younger, and is willing to teach him/her what he/she needs to know. In other words, a mentor is an experienced person who advises and helps somebody with least experience over a period of time.

 

Mentoring is helping people to reach their fullest potential in life, not just to teach them how to perform a task the right way.

Mentoring happens when adults commit themselves to younger person, not because they have to, but because they want to. It has an irrational emotional attachment.

Every teen, whether rich or poor, educated or not, etc… needs a mentor – an adult who is irrationally committed to his/her well being. Even in families where both parents are present, teens still look outside the home for affirmation and guidance.  Unfortunately for many, all they find are peers, pop culture, the exploitation of the media, and the internet.

Millions of teens grow up virtually alone – disconnected from adults; no love…no supervision…no positive role models. Yet these teens must still find their way. They still grow up to become adults.

Teens can endure the most miserable conditions in life if they have at least one loving adult committed to their well being.

 

WHY DO WE NEED MENTORING TODAY? TITUS 2:3-8, EPH. 4:14

 

• It is a means of enhancing intimacy with God.
• It builds and establishes ones identity with Christ.
• It’s an effective model for personal development in character formation and spiritual disciplines.
• It’s an effective safeguard in setting boundaries and establishing standard during adolescence.
• It serves as a proven road map on our Christian pilgrim.

 

DIFFERENT TYPES OF MENTORING:

 

• 1. Occasional Mentoring: This is counsellor, teacher, and facilitator relationship. It offers timely advice. It shares knowledge and understanding of a particular subject; and provides guidance within a particular topic or subject.

This type of mentoring consists mainly of attraction, responsiveness and empowerment, while relationship and accountability might not be there.

 

• 1. Passive Mentoring: This is a kind of contemporary models-autobiographies, and historical models-biographies…This category of mentoring presents to teens living and historical models, whose lifestyles teaches dynamic godly principles.

Though this type of mentoring is rich to an extent, it is without the necessary inter-personal relationships.

 

• 1. Active Mentoring: This is a kind of Discipler, Spiritual guide, and Coach Relationship. This type requires regular intentional interactions.
     • It enables the mentoree to discover and learn the basics of following Christ.
     • It provides accountability, direction and insights for decision-making.
     • It provides motivation and skills needed to meet a task.

 

PRINCIPLES FOR MENTORING RELATIONSHIP:

 

1. ATTRACTION:- The mentor is attracted to the mentoree’s potentials and opportunity for influence. While the mentoree is attracted to the mentor for skills, values, virtues, commitment, models, experiences, knowledge, character, etc.

 

1. HUMILITY:- There must be mutual trust and submission in the relationship.

 

1. RELATIONSHIP:– There must be a nurturing trust and intimacy that grows life long friendship and fellowship.

 

1. PATIENTCE:– Mentoring is a process, not a project. It’s a journey that requires great patience, persistence, and perseverance. It’s also a relationship that often endures for a long time- even many years.

 

1. ACCOUNTABILITY:– There must be mutual responsibility that ensures closeness and progress – following up to see that the right decision is being taken.

 

1. EMPOWERMENT:– The main purpose of mentoring is to help one gain more grace to increase in his/her unique relationship with God.

 

1. MATURITY:– There should be a systematic, wholistic and progressive evidence of growth in the mentoree’s life.

 

CONCLUSION:

 

Jesus instructed His disciples both in group settings and one-on-one. He taught them by example as well as by precept, and His teaching was incidental rather than formal. He called them to be with him, to follow him. He told them to “come and see.” “Jesus made disciples by His life. One does not teach faith and love with words alone. Disciples’ hearts cannot be set on fire by theories. Fire kindles fire; iron sharpens iron; faith calls forth faith; life begets life.” Learning was deeply relational and involved not only instruction, but guidance, counsel, imitation, affirmation, rebuke, correction, encouragement, and friendship.

Jesus arranged retreats for special instruction, but the disciples’ characters were mainly developed in the highways of life rather than in isolation. They learned from their failures as well as their successes. Their experiences in daily life provided the opportunity for developing spiritual principles and values.

In today’s church we do almost everything in group settings. Our spiritual instructions are restricted to Sunday school classes, workshops, and open preaching in the auditorium. Learning about the Christian faith was never intended to be an academic pursuit, disconnected from family and life, taught theoretically and in abstraction to the masses.

HOW TO REACH EVERYONE IN THE CLASS

TEXT: JOHN 13:4-17, MARK 4:33-34.

Kukkua likes to talk with her friends about what’s going on in her life; Frank wants to know the facts and details as he works through the Bible study; Kofi is most interested in how a new idea works; Julie wants to get out of the classroom and put into action what she’s just learned. Is there a way to reach everyone one of these learners?

Yes! The process is called “the natural law of learning”. This way of presenting God’s truth is nothing new. Competent Sunday school teachers have done it instinctively for years. Research supports the idea that God designed a series of events to occur for information to go into long-term memory—that is, for learning to take place.

For many Sunday school teachers, the natural law of learning just seems to make sense. Experience has shown these teachers that students cannot absorb information they don’t care to remember or practice a new concept they have not understood. How does this look in a Bible lesson? The following lines will amplify the four basic laws of learning activities and how to apply them in our Sunday school classes.

LAW ONE: All Students Need To Be Motivated: – The learner must be motivated to want to learn.

The purpose of law one is to link your students’ life experiences (home, friends, school, etc.) to the Lesson Focus and to interest them in the topic. How then do you get them interested?

As the motivator, you are entrusted with the responsibility of engaging your students in such a way that they stay tuned in to find out what the lesson is all about. To do this your students must have meaningful answers to questions like “Why do I need to know this?” and “What does this have to do with my life?”

To begin the lesson, you should have your students participate in an opening activity which involves the whole class in some way.

Activities could involve . . . • a skit • a game • a video clip • a teaching aids poster • a page in the student book • an opening story or case study especially for the teens.

For the teens, this activity is immediately followed up with a sharing time that allows your students to talk about their own experiences and knowledge about the lesson topic. You see, students learn best when they see the relevance of the new information you want to present to them. When they see how their own experiences connect to the Bible content, your students will be more inclined to “buy in” and become motivated to participate in the entire lesson.

The point of the initial activity and sharing time is to help your students discover the chance they have in the lesson, to understand why they should give you their time to learn something new, and to recognize that you value their participation.

God created the human brain to make meaningful connections between new content and what it already knows. It is difficult (or impossible) to remember something that is perceived as useless. The human brain can only hold five to nine pieces of insignificant information at one time. Unless your students see the relevance of what you’re going to present, the lesson won’t “stick” in their minds or hearts for very long.

LAW TWO: All Students Need to Learn the Facts: – The learner must be presented with new and interested information.

The purpose of law two is to present the Bible information to your students. In this stage, your students will come face-to-face with information they may have never encountered before.

This is the traditional step when most teachers feel they are “teaching.” But you might ask, “Can’t I just begin here to teach the lesson?” Unless you take the time to set up the lesson, motivate your students, and help them focus on how this content connects to their lives, you’ll lose their interest and they won’t grasp the Bible facts you’re presenting. Bible content is delivered in a lively Bible storytelling especially to the younger classes.

You can use . . .• Bible art posters • interactive teaching aids • an expressive voice with facial expressions and whole body actions to bring the Scriptures to life. The truth is that the children will come to love your unique storytelling style for teaching God’s Word.

Check for Understanding: Simply presenting a Bible story, however, does not guarantee that learning has taken place. As you know, just because you’re talking doesn’t mean your students are listening. That is why it is important that after new information has been presented to take time to check for understanding. This means that the teacher needs to take a few moments to find out if the students comprehended the information that was presented.

Teachers can check for understanding in a variety of ways. You can . . . • have children retell or dramatize the Bible story. • have children play a game or sing a song about the lesson. • ask questions about the material like . . .Who stayed to watch baby Moses in the basket boat? What did God ask Moses to do? How do you think the three Hebrew guys showed they were good friends?

It is very important to check for understanding before going on to the practice part of the lesson (law 3). If the information has been misunderstood, the student who moves on in the lesson will either practice mistakes, or quickly get bored with the activities.

LAW THREE: All Students Need to Practice: – The learner must practice the new learning fact.

The purpose of law three is to provide a variety of opportunities for the students to put into practice the information they’ve just acquired.

This is a time for safe choices and exploration. Step 3 is the guided practice part of the lesson. In this step the teacher functions as a coach, setting up the plays, and then standing back and letting the students do all the actions. This is the time for children to try out the new information and see how it works.

There are many ways to put new information to the test. You can change your question from bible base characters to the students’ personal lives.

You can also use activities; research supports the idea that activity works best in reaching out to children. If something is learned by doing it, it’s far more likely to be remembered than if it’s learned by seeing and hearing. Law three is very important since learning is not just about knowledge and understanding at the moment, but also memory and action.

There’s an old quote that says: after 3 weeks you only retain 10% of what you see, 5% of what you hear, and 3% of what you read. But you remember 70% of what you do.

LAW FOUR: All Students Need to Apply the Bible to Their Lives: – The learner must use what has been learned and apply it to his/her life.

The purpose of law 4 is to encourage your students to apply what they’ve learned to their everyday experiences.

Step 4 is the time for the teacher to step back and assume the role of the encourager. This is the time for your students to be creative in making plans on how to take their new learning and apply it to their lives.

Law 4 has two distinct parts.

1. Your students make a plan about how they will use what they’ve learned.

2. Your students implement their plans after they leave the classroom.

One of the hardest parts of Step 4 is to allow your students to make their own plans. It is appealing to “tell” them how to use the information in their lives. But in order for your students to “own” what they have learned, they must choose to use it, and use it in a way that is all their own. The second part of this step is where your students put their plans into action! The creation of the plans occurs in the classroom in Step 4, but the acting out of those plans does not happen in the classroom. The application usually does not happen where you can see it. These plans are fulfilled in the student’s home, school, or neighborhood. In this way your lesson gets extended into your students’ everyday lives where God’s Word can make a significant impact.

Application Paralysis. Teachers have often spent so much time creating ways of application that students can become paralyzed during the Step 4 portion of the lesson. Students may be afraid to be “wrong” or simply have no idea about how to personally use what they have learned. This calls for patience and understanding on the part of the teacher. It is critically important to understand that this step must “belong” to the student. If the student comes up with his or her own plan of application, then the student is far more likely to put that plan into action, though you may try to advice him on the better way to apply it.

THINGS TO WATCH OUT FOR:

When using the Law of Learning, there things you need to watch out for:

• Be specific: Focus on one thing to teach. Your class will probably remember only one thing from the meeting, so make sure you’re the one who decides what it is.
• Be selective: All teaching activities must focus on one point. So make sure all that is done supports this one thing you are teaching. Do not be over-ambitious.
• Be varied: Don’t do any one thing for too long. Keep moving. Move on before the students get bored. Stay one step ahead of them.
• Be clear: Not only about what is being taught, but also about what you want the student to do, how long they’ve to do it, etc.
• Be daring: Try out new things. Stretch yourself – but make sure you practice first! Try to be original, and think up the odd thing yourself.

CONCLUSSION

Above all, as a teacher you need to know and understand the subject you want to teach. They say, “You can’t teach what you don’t understand”. And you can’t teach simply what you don’t know deeply. Sadly, many Sunday school teachers try to teach a passage before they have understood it themselves. More serious than that, though, is when teachers think they have understood a passage when they haven’t. They end up believing they are teaching people what the Bible is saying, when they’re not.

The law of learning is a great pattern that every teacher can successfully use. Even Jesus has his special law of learning he can’t do without when it comes to teaching – Mark 4:33-34. when you apply law of learning, discipline problems will reduce because students are involved. Students learn because they have been shown how the subject is relevant to them. Students are challenged to put what they are learning into practice. Before the lesson begins, the teacher can use the Link to Last Week to ask students to talk about how they put their Step 4 plans into action the previous week. The law of learning honours everyone God brings into our classrooms.

 

COMMITMENT TO YOUR PURPOSE

A chicken and a pig were walking past a church building one day when they noticed the Sunday morning sermon posted on the outside bulletin board, “Helping the Poor.” They walked away, and then the chicken suddenly came across with a suggestion. “She said, Brother Pig, why don’t we give all the poor people a nice breakfast of ham and eggs?” The pig thought a moment and replied, “That’s all right for you to say because for you it is only a contribution, but for me, it’s total commitment!”

The difference in a contribution and total commitment to whatever we do in life is usually the difference in failure and success. Commitment is the word we hear so often in the secular world setting more than in the church setting. Professional sport men and women, business persons, executive personnel, most school teachers etc. are all committed to their occupations.

Jesus succeeded in His mission because He was totally committed to the task before Him. He was willing to give up everything, even His life, for the cause He believed in. No one really succeeds in life until he reaches the point that he is willing to lay down his life for the purpose of his/her existence.

WHAT IS YOUR PURPOSE IN THE DEPARTMENT? (Colossians 1:28-29)

Every teacher must know why the department exists first, and why he/she is working there. Knowing the purpose of the teens/children department will solve the major problem of let’s-gather-the-children-together-and-do-something-before-their-parents-come-for-them mentality.

The big question is; do you have a purpose for being in the department? You can’t be committed without a purpose. Purpose is the primary motivation of every human action. It fuels ones passion to be committed to whatever God has called us to do. More than any other factor, purpose affects the choices we make – they way we spend our time, energy, and resources.

THREE AREAS WE MUST DEMONSTRATE OUR COMMITMENT

Time Usage: Moses said in Psalm 90:12 – teach us to use wisely all the time we have (CEV). Time is what we want most but what we worst. All humans are created equal in one aspect – everyone has 24 hours a day, the difference actually is what each person does with his/her time.

The devil tries to fulfill his mission by providing us with ideas on how to kill, steal and destroy valuable time. John 10:10.

Energy Usage: Love the Lord your God with all your strength…..

Resources Usage: Your commitment to God’s work can be measured by how much of your resources you are “willing” to give to achieve your purpose. Acts 4:36-37.

A wealthy university graduate chose to live economically in a single room, cooking his own meals. As a result he was able to give two million dollars to foreign missions. In explanation of his choice he wrote these words: “Gladly would I make the floor my bed, a box my chair and another box my table, rather than men should perish for want of knowledge of Christ.” I am not suggesting that all Christians are called upon to forfeit the normal comforts of life; only, when God calls them to a life of sacrifice, they’ll be willing to leave all and follow Him.

CHARACTERISTICS OF A COMMITTED TEACHER

Persistent Desire To Grow. Philippians 3:12-13

Just because God placed a desire to work with Christian youngsters on your heart does not mean that you don’t need to grow as a teacher.

Whether you have 10 years of teaching children experience or you are just getting started, it’s always good to know that you need to grow daily in your knowledge. Paul advice Timothy to study to show himself approved as a teacher of God’s word.

A Good Example Of A True Christian. Philippians 3:17

The truth is that, if you are going to be working with Christian kids you should be a Christian yourself. This doesn’t mean that you have to be the most knowledgeable Christian in the world, but you do need to have some understanding of your faith and you need to have a heart centered on God.

Committed Sunday school workers should be able to demonstrate their own relationship with God as an example for youngsters to follow. It is hard to teach someone something you do not do yourself. The philosophy “Do as I do, not as I say,” doesn’t go very far with teenagers. Devotions, daily prayer time, and daily Bible reading will help you grow in your relationship with God and provide support in working with young people.

Have The Servant Heart. John 13:12-17

The servant heart is very important. Children ministry takes a lot of work. You will most likely need to be available to help set-up, clean-up, and attend events beyond the regular church services. Children workers often need a lot of help in preparation and executing children ministry activities.

Without a servant’s heart you are not setting a Christian example to your students. Being a servant is a huge part of being a Christian. Christ was a servant to man, and He called people to be servants to one another. It does not mean you have to be a slave to ministry, but you need to come ready to help out whenever possible.

Have A Big Shoulders. 2 Corinthians 1:3-7 – we were comforted to be comforters.

Adolescence is a very difficult period in life, and Christian teens are no different. Just because they are Christians does not mean that they do not go through trials and tribulations like everyone else. A great Sunday school teacher should be there for the students. He or she must have big shoulders that can handle tears, laughter, and more. As an adolescents worker you carry the weight of what is going on in your students’ lives.

Youth workers need to have empathy for the students they work with. Empathy is being able to put yourself in the student’s shoes. You also need to have good listening skills. It is not okay to just hear what a student is saying. You should listen actively and ask questions. A lot of what teens say is “between the lines.”

Have A Sense of Responsibility. Colossians 1:28b

A committed teacher is always conscious of the fact that one day he/she will stand before God to give account of the work God committed into his hand. Yes, you are responsible for those little ones in your class.

As a Sunday school teacher, you should act as a parent to discipline; a teacher to instruct; a friend to encourage; an employer to supervise; an evangelist to win, and a leader to guide.

Have A Positive Attitude. Colossians 3:23-25

There is nothing more damaging to children ministry than a complaining worker. If you complain the entire time, your students will start to associate negative traits with the class and church as a whole. Even in the worst of times you need to be able to put on a calm face. Keep your focus on the good in every situation. Yes, it is hard sometimes, but as a teacher you need to keep your students focused in the right direction.

CONCLUSION:

There is a lot of responsibility when you become a children/teens worker. By learning to enhance the above characteristics will help you to be more committed to your purpose – the passion to willingly and joyfully give your time, energy, and resources to your calling. Remember, in God’s dictionary, there is no such thing like “partial commitment.” Revelation 3:15-16.

There is a difference between interest and commitment. When you’re interested in doing something, you do it only when circumstance permit. When you’re committed to something, you accept no excuse, only result.